Love this! Definitely bookmarking the book—I've been listening to a lot of 30MPC lately too, and some of their tone frameworks really clicked when I was talking with a coworker the other day. They’d just come out of a networking conversation that felt flat, and when I asked if it had gone back and forth at all similar to the mirror/reciprocal piece you mentioned, they said it hadn’t.
That kicked off a good conversation between us about how that lack of reciprocity can be a big reason things feel off. I shared one thing I try to do in those situations- if I notice I’m not getting many questions back, I’ll lead more into my response by offering a short story or context, so it’s easier for the other person to pull on a thread. In their case, they were the more junior person in the room, and just walked away feeling disconnected.
All of it reinforced how much the energy and balance of a conversation matters and how you can guide that just by being intentional. Hope you’re having an awesome summer!
Glad to have you here! It's definitely a great way to connect on these types of ideas that I typically cannot in an academic paper or conference. Look forward to more feedback from you!
Love this! Definitely bookmarking the book—I've been listening to a lot of 30MPC lately too, and some of their tone frameworks really clicked when I was talking with a coworker the other day. They’d just come out of a networking conversation that felt flat, and when I asked if it had gone back and forth at all similar to the mirror/reciprocal piece you mentioned, they said it hadn’t.
That kicked off a good conversation between us about how that lack of reciprocity can be a big reason things feel off. I shared one thing I try to do in those situations- if I notice I’m not getting many questions back, I’ll lead more into my response by offering a short story or context, so it’s easier for the other person to pull on a thread. In their case, they were the more junior person in the room, and just walked away feeling disconnected.
All of it reinforced how much the energy and balance of a conversation matters and how you can guide that just by being intentional. Hope you’re having an awesome summer!
Glad to have you here! It's definitely a great way to connect on these types of ideas that I typically cannot in an academic paper or conference. Look forward to more feedback from you!